Abela would stare at her mirror after a long night as tears fell from her eyes. Even the most beautiful song sounded like a heartbreak melody. You’d think the beautiful, navy-blue dress was made for dining and grinning at the cherries on top of mocha lattes. But today the jewelry on her neck felt the heat of her tears as she cried softly, saying, “I am enough. I deserve to be loved.”
Recognizing Your Self-worth: How to Embrace the Love you Deserve
Self-worth is the internal view of believing that the self is of value and deserving of respect. This personal view is important, especially where people view value from an extrinsic perspective and through material gain. Having a deep sense of self-worth impacts relationships positively as it allows a person to interact with their environment with more love and care.
Self-worth is developed by reflecting on the achievements and failures to embrace the wholeness of being. Successes create room for celebrating the victories won while failures teach how to improve on certain areas of their psyche to gain mastery at particular parts of their lives. Such self-mastery greatly impacts the quality of a person’s life by improving relationships and overall happiness.
Creating routines of affirmation and self-compassion boosts an individual’s worth by reinforcing value to oneself by repeating words and actions of self-care. The practice of developing self-worth sets the standard for your interactions with the external world. The continuous embodiment of the value you possess develops the image one has of yourself to improve your quality of life.
Understanding Boundaries: Why Knowing Your Limits Helps You Attract Healthy Relationships
Boundaries are a guard to the inner self that determines the lifestyle relationship a person has with the world. Understanding personal boundaries fosters mutual respect and attracts valuable relationships. The different boundaries managed by a person include physical, emotional, and mental boundaries. Communicating the comfort levels of physical touch, emotional stress, and opinions will help a person understand their value. Strong boundaries result in respect and understanding in building healthy relationship dynamics toward more fulfilling connections.
Abela
By noon the following day, Abela had rid herself of the dress and ornaments she had adorned the previous night. Her ex-boyfriend was calling her phone for the 63rd time that day but Abela was unavailable to avoid dealing with a man who had decided to betray her on her birthday. Abela sat by the window that overlooked the green pastures in the far distance. She held a glass of water as she wiped her tears saying, “I am enough.”
Her notebook lay on the floor next to her watch which ticked seven minutes past noon. The jazz music playing in the background reminded her of her father who lived to tell her how beautiful she was. She missed the old man. She missed the light in his eyes and at this moment she realized that if she was to be anything, she would be the light to herself first. She took a sip of water and cussed as if she had wished it to be wine. Red and rich.
