Here are some pointers to remember to make your personality pleasing, one that creates positive reactions in others:
- To have a friend, you must be one.
- The greatest hunger that people have is to be needed, wanted and loved. Help create those feelings in others.
- Don't try to impress others. Let them impress you.
- Be kind to people. You can't always love them, but you can be kind to them.
- Learn to like yourself. Others will respond to you the way you respond to yourself.
- Be enthusiastic. Nothing significant was ever achieved without enthusiasm - including deep, rich human relationships.
- Be positive. Positive people attract others; negative people repel others.
- Do things to make people feel important. Write a letter. Give a compliment. Say, "Thank you." Praise. Encourage. Support. Cooperate.
- Sticking up for your "rights" is great, but do you always have to be right? Letting the other person be right once in a while will keep friendships warm.
- Be a good listener. You can have a greater effect on others by the way that you listen than by the way that you talk.
- Unless you can say something worthy about a person, say nothing.
- Call a person by name. Use it often in your conversation.
- Communicate cheerfulness. Smile. Be pleasant. Talk about the brighter things in life.
- Avoid arguments
- If you're going to make fun of someone, make sure it's you.
- Help people like themselves. The greatest compliment someone can give you is to say, " like myself better when I’m with you."
- Be genuinely interested in others. Get them to talk about themselves. Ask for their opinions, ideas and viewpoints.
