Beyond Shame: Breaking the Silence About Sexual Assault

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Explore the pervasive issue of sexual violence in the U.S., highlighting the profound impact on both women and men. Delve into statistics, the age of first experiences, and the crucial need for addressing shame, guilt, and underreporting. Discover effective strategies for survivor empowerment and the importance of breaking the silence.

Introduction 

Suppose there is a hall with one hundred people inside. Research indicates that at least twenty of them has faced some form of sexual abuse. Many of them have to face the consequences of this aggression together with the feeling of shame and guilt that follows it. Such feelings were often expressed, and it left one survivor feeling like it was her fault and she should have done something to stop it and the shame from that was overpowering This self-blame is not only typical but also toxic for the survivor’s healing process. 
 
Child sexual abuse is one of the most prevalent violations of children’s rights as they affect millions of children worldwide irrespective of their ages, gender or social-economic status. According to the World Health Organization, globally a third of women, or more precisely one in every three women, have been physically or sexually assaulted in their lives. Some of the effects caused by such an abuse are severe, especially on the psychological aspect of the person, their body, and their interactions with others. The result of such experience is depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, and, most importantly, the feeling of shame and guilt that make it difficult for survivors to ask for help and overcome. 
 
Speaking of the further therapeutic and empowering mechanisms for the sexual abuse survivors, one has to address the issue of shame and guilt. The recognition of these feelings and the use of the proper strategies will help the victims establish themselves anew and eventually strive for the new life instead of dwelling on the traumatic experiences. 
 

 Understanding Shame and Guilt 
 

As much as shame and guilt are often used interchangeably they are technically different experiences that have different roots and consequences. Shame is defined as an emotionally painful state that follows a negative evaluation of self, which results in feelings of worthless and self loathing. On the other hand, guilt deviation is based on the negative self-estimation of certain activities implying the following of regret for the actions performed. Although guilt may contain some positive aspects as it encourages some people to make necessary changes, shame has only negative effects: it makes people depreciate their worth and believe they are inherently bad. 
 
 It is especially important to note that shame and guilt might be significantly more severe in cases of sexual abuse. These emotions may cause the survivors to noticeably shy away from people because they may fear people laughing at them. Apparently, this internalization of blame leads to mental deterioration that may lead to depression, anxiety, and reluctance to seek help.Furthermore, the constant harsh attitude towards oneself, accompanied by a negative evaluation of one’s own self reflected in shame acts as a barrier to healing and prevents the survivors from evolving as individuals. 
 
> Misplaced Self-Blame 
 A rather paradoxical and adverse reaction of the victims is that they tend to find themselves at least partially responsible for the abuse. This self-blame is usually as a result of stigmatized and myths of sexual violence, which implies that the victims are somehow to be blamed for the aggression that is ensued on them. These are not only untruthful assumptions but also destructive ones since the manifestation of shame and guilt should not be reinstated. These assumptions have to be debunked and remind people that abuse is not the survivor’s choice and fault, it is the perpetrator’s fault. 
 

Coping Strategies for Survivors 

>Acknowledge Feelings 
 The first reaction toward shame and guilt, therefore, is to accept them as ordinary among victims of such a trauma. The survivors should be informed that such feelings are normal to experience at a period of recovery from the effects of trauma. Expressed emotions can decrease if one learns to accept and validate them due to the realization that they are normal and can be managed. This realization is the starting point for the subsequent healing because it enables the survivors to face and address the emotions as opposed to denying them. 
 
>Education 
In this case education proves to be a very vital asset when it comes to the recovery process. Giving survivors a chance to access information about trauma, its impact, and the way to help one’s-self can help take charge of the process. The analysis of the psychological and physiological processes of trauma can eradicate misconceptions and state of hopelessness affecting their lives. Moreover, teaching the survivors how to avoid stress, anxiety, and depressive symptoms by concentrating on their psychological health will also help the ones affected. 
 
>Breaking the Silence 
Survivors empowering themselves is one of the most powerful decisions they can make, especially when they speak out. Often, it takes talking with someone about it, whether it is a friend, support group, or to the public, to start overcoming something. The act of sharing their story will help to get a confirmation that their experience is not a unique one, eliminate or at least decrease the feeling of loneliness, and create a group of people who have something in common and can help each other. It also erodes the underlining taboos of sexual assaults, persuading other victims to speak up, and seek assistance. 
 
>Professional Help 
 Counseling and therapy are major services through which survivors may seek help. Counselors who have expert knowledge in the area of trauma will help survivors of the problem to express themselves, gain ways of overcoming and dealing with the ordeal. Among the commonly used treatments, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), and others are known to yield good results in PTSD and other similar trauma disorders. Having access to professional help is especially critical for a survivor, as it can enhance the quality and agency of a person’s life. 
 
 

Statistics 

1.Women and Men 
Sexual violence is a problem in United States and as per findings in research and sampling it affects both women and men, but is more dominant in women. The prevalence rate shows that, of all the women, one in every five has been either raped, or attempted rape once in her lifetime. Boys and men also are not spared from sexual violence with an average of 24. 8% having experienced contact sexual violence. The above statistics reveal that gender-based violence is a serious issue affecting individuals of all genders, which calls for concerted efforts to tackle cases of abuse and support victims. Such experiences depict the various and pervasive sections of the sexual violence crisis in American society, which has not been documented. 
 
2.Sexual Harassment and Assault 
 Aside from the act of rape, it is as shocking that a large population of the U. S citizens report to have suffered sexual harassment or assaultage. According to the surveys carried out and conducted among women and men all over the country, it was found out that 81% of women and 43% of men have been sexually harassed or sexually assaulted. This includes stalking to following or physically touching without consent extending to sexual abuse, rape and other related offences as they depict the societal culture of sexual harassment in various facets of life such as the workplace, public domains and cyberspace. Such high percentages indicate the necessity of cultural transformation and the adoption of the measures targeted at responding to and preventing sexual harassment and assault in any form. 
 
3.Age of First Experience 
Sexual violence starts young, many victims experience their first abuse before they are 18 years of age, some as young as 6 years of age. Completed or attempted rape was reported by 13% of the women, of which a third said the first rape experience was between ages 11 and 17. In the same regard, slightly over one quarter of the male victims’ first experience of sexual coercion occurred within the same age bracket. The given examples of the impact of the media on the youth prove that such exposure to the representation of sexual violence can significantly damage an individual's mental and emotional state as well as belonging to other social groups. Thus, it corroborates the necessity of the early prevention and support of young people who witnessed or got exposed to a sexual violent act. 
 
4.Reported Cases 
 Unfortunately, sexual violence is quite common, but many of these cases are not even reported. According to the estimation of CDC, around 734,630 people were raped in the U. S. individually with threatened, attempted, or completed rape in the year of 2018. Nevertheless, according to the crimes recorded, it was only revealed that about 40 percent of rape and sexual assault cases were reported to the police in 2017 and this drastically reduced to approximately 25 percent in 2018. There are several reasons why these crimes remain underreported; including victim vulnerability to further violence, embarrassment, lack of confidence in the criminal justice system, and societal labelling. This disparity between the prevalence of sexual violence and reporting provides the rationale for enhancing survivor support services, legal changes, and raising awareness to enhance survivors’ willingness to report the acts. 
 
5. False Reporting 
 Pervasiveness in falsification of sexual assault as a crime Contrary to what most people may think regarding the rates of falsification, it is very low and falls between two and ten percent. This statistic is helpful in responding to the skepticism that is normally encountered when it comes to docketing of accusations of sexual assault. Whereas, the percentage of false reporting is a measly figure and this only underlines the need for people to believe survivors who speak out. It also emphasizes the importance of paying attention to the procedures that should exist to support whistleblowers, so that they can be provided with the due recognition as well as justice that they deserve. Breaking the myths of false reporting is crucial in improving the social justice and understanding the Sexual Assault Cases .

Conclusion 

 
>The paper argues that the two barriers, shame and guilt, can be debilitating to sexually abused persons and, hence, must be overcome so that the survivors can be empowered to heal. Recognizing these emotions as different from the generally healthy survivor emotions, recognizing sing them as common responses toward trauma and identifying how to effectively respond to them in a positive manner are the ways in which the inmates of such institutions can start to break down these barriers to healing. Speaking out, getting an education and seeking professional help are important parts of this process and help survivors to carry out their healing. 
 
>Empowerment 
 Surviving sexual abuse therefore means there is a possibility of healing from this vice. Self acceptance and or resilience are elements of regaining some form of control over one’s self and life. It reflects one’s ability to equip oneself as a result of understanding that one is capable of coming out of hardship. It refers to a process of reconstructing personal biography to exclude the traumatic events, practicing self-care, and surrounding oneself with the people who will support and advocate. 
 
>Call to Action 
Counseling and general support for the survivors is important to make society ready to embrace them after they have undergone through this crucial process of healing. This ranges from debunking colossal myths and stigma, offering easier access to resources and services, and avatar testing for survivors to come out with their stories. To sum up, when people lift the curtain together and support others who share the same experiences, we can change the world for the better and create a world where survivors can receive help and support instead of being discriminated against.

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