Love of any kind or form is life-changing and an intimate part of oneself. To some people, it is an easy process where you know what direction you are taking and what steps to follow. For others, it is a run-of-the-mill cheesy fairy tale that anyone, even a blind squirrel, can find. In general, I am entirely a hopeless romantic, so I fall in the latter category.
Love of any kind or form is life-changing and an intimate part of oneself. To some people, it is an easy process where you know what direction you are taking and what steps to follow. For others, it is a run-of-the-mill cheesy fairy tale that anyone, even a blind squirrel, can find. In general, I am entirely a hopeless romantic, so I fall in the latter category. My heart is a canvass of dreams of ideal love stories, cozy walks under the moonlight, and chance meetings. As much as people might regard my optimism as a fine, and somewhat adorable trait, others might see it as a charming ignorance. In either case, being a hopeless romantic defines how I subsequently make sense of the world and more to the point, love. This is a writing from a hopeless romantic and what we confess when romanced.
Idealism Runs Deep
There is one thought that can be considered as the core of my rather romantic personality – it is idealism. I am forever fascinated with the idea of love as something as big as the universe that brings two people into each other. Whether it’s the endless charm of the Hollywood antique romance or the rhymed beauty of a Shakespearean sonnet. I like to think of the call of undying and eternal love where fate interferes. In my view, love is not a sequence of events – it is a fairy tale that has to be bright.
Sometimes, I generate mental episodes hoping to create random encounters between two characters with a deep and eternal bond. These daydreams are not simple fantasies that someone may have; they are the dreams of my heart that instill that love is spectacular, rare for it’s meant to happen at a perfect time. This idealism keeps me hopeful and has my heart in the right place looking forward to the day when that one will be met.
Daydreaming as a Habit
Here is an idea, a thought process of mine, which is, more like a hobby; daydreaming. Even now my thoughts can quickly build some grand scene of a beautiful date or a declaration of my love. These are not innocent daydreams but very concrete and highly charged; in short Utopian daydreams. While I understand that the world does not usually turn into such fabulous fancies I try to spoil myself more often with such visions.
These daydreams inspire one and hope that is much needed in today’s society. Thus, despite the rather realistic view of reality, the construction of the dream means that the hope is preserved. It is a harbinger of love whether expressed as passion, care, or affection, that can be good and can change for the better.
Nostalgia
Because of this, there is this seemingly misty hue when I look at the concept of romance. One can only dream about moments when love was filled with passion, where tender words were written on paper, long drawn-out courtships, and knight in shining armor type of gentlemen. I imagine the past was better, people did not rush head over heels into relationships as is the case with today’s youth who text half-baked love notes and expect a reply.
This doesn’t necessarily mean wanting the past, but knowing that such a fancy and caring gesture embodies such thorough consideration is refreshing. When the world has become a place of ‘Twittering’ and ‘Facebooking’, where people interact virtually, it is nice to show affection in a deeper context. The sweetness of the old times sets the tone for how I would like to love, as well as how I would wish to be loved as well.
Love Songs as My Soundtrack
Music has been integral to my dating life regardless of the kind of relationships I have been in. Out of all of them, I have always particularly preferred love songs. Not just tunes and words, for they portray the feeling and passion involved in romantic love. From a romantic slow-tempo song to an energetic pop dance track, they all touch people’s hearts and fuel my own love story.
That is probably why I tend to gravitate towards so-called love songs for the lyrics are usually what I like to imagine to be true about love and relationships. They act as playschemes in my life, they comfort me and inspire me as well. Every time I hear a love song, it makes me understand that love is not only sheltered in this generation but also in the early generations.
Romantic gestures over material gifts
Despite what many may think, it can be said that actions speak louder than words when it comes to romantic relationships because romantic gestures are better than material gifts.
In a world where tangible physical gifts take up interest in people’s hearts, I still believe that true love is expressed through the heart. A scribble on a paper, dancing in the living room, or hours of conversations about dreams – these are the things that make me happy.
I have value more than the grand and materialistic gifts, the forethought that goes into such minimalistic gestures. They are a real person and it is shown through them what may make a particular individual happy and make her or him feel wanted. In my view, it does not matter the amount spent or the fact that it was expensive but it matters the intention the giver had for giving that gift.
The Power of the Perfect Date
When choosing a date and a venue, I tend to be selective making the planning process important to me. I often dedicate my time and resources to ensure I make the best choices by meeting the right people and creating the right conversations with them. This makes me over-plan and overthink simple interactions and further fuels my need for detail in planning to create an ambiance for making love blossom.
I plan meticulously even when I understand that not all goes as visualized. I love to plan for simple meetups because they signal devotion towards a person, which in most cases is appreciated and leads to amazing experiences. It is all about having opportunities for those moments that can be etched into and savored into memory.
Hope Against All Odds
Despite the hardships that people face in the process of love, I still believe in happy love. It is not just wishful thinking but an integrated belief that runs deep into my subconscious mind that someone out there holds similar truths and is ready to overcome all the challenges that come across in the process.
It becomes a hope that guides people through the volatile nature of love relationships. It assists me to remain cheerful and optimistic even where we do not achieve what we aim for. The existence of a chance to get true love is always encouraging and keeps the heart and spirit alive all the time.
Romantic Comedies as My Escape
I love romantic comedies because, apart from bursting out laughing, I always know that the characters will end up together. These movies are misleading in a way that a person gets to see a different world where love will prevail and all the issues will be solved perfectly. These stories give some relief and build up confidence that in the worst scenarios, love prevails.
It is not only fun to watch romantic comedies, but also refreshing in its ability to create firm beliefs in the enchantment of love. They slowly build a picture of reality and always have the message that even if life is not always perfect, there is hope for a better tomorrow. Movies prove that love offers hope in situations requiring emotional and mental support.
Fear of Vulnerability
At the same time, I must admit that, even though I need people’s empathy and support, I have fears of intimacy from time to time. I find it hard to knowingly ask for help because I rarely open up to express my innermost feelings. This indicates that an element of risk; of being rejected, or of being rejected, is always a factor in pursuing the possibility of love.
However, vulnerability is part of developing meaningful relationships that match our true personalities. As much as this creates anxiety, I need to face this feeling for true and beautiful relationships do not come without vulnerability.
Belief in Soulmates
Another principle that constitutes the base of my thinking about romantic relationships is the concept of soulmates. I still believe in finding a person interested in my awkward way of life and find me interesting despite all my flaws. This comforts me and encourages me to maintain honesty in all my relationships and interactions with potential lovers.The concept of soulmates proves that people are destined for each other and love cannot be a mere chance. It is a glimpse of hope that there exists a person made just for me to pave the way for perfect love. This belief makes it possible for me to remain patient and always positively look at life’s coming attractions from a romantic perspective.
How to Retain the Essence of Hopeless Romantic
A hopeless romantic means that one has to bear the brute pains and gains of developing muscle for endurance. It is about recognizing the beauty of love even when the world has lost faith in beautiful and peaceful relationships. It is about embracing, having something to look forward to, and celebrating small things for the prospect of the big. As a hopeless romantic, one has to appreciate all things magical about the concept of love, as well as soul-searching for a unique experience.
Finally, a hopeless romantic wakes up with hope and dreams in their soul. It is about the beauty of life and love which is, in fact, the way how people show their attitudes and feelings in relationships. Thus, cheers to all dreamers, believers, and lovers in our hearts – let’s keep on dreaming, believing, and loving!
