Have you ever asked yourself whether that wink, smile or wandering rehearsal actually pays off, and makes you get on the right side of someone you would love to be close to? You’re not alone. It is very interesting that the concept of flirting, which so crucial to prescribing the rules of sexual attraction, has been a mystery to people since the beginning of humanity. But does it really work, or is it just a lot of hype we have all fallen for have we really decieved ourselves or have we convinced ourselves that this really works perfectly. Admit it, flirting can really be as tricky as walking through a minefield with one’s eyes closed blind folded. You are seeking to be romantic without being vulgar, flirtatious without being vulgar and all at the same time without being vulgar. It’s a dilemma, and full of controversies as to whether the step is worth the shot. 
 

Flirting is not only about eye twirling or come-hither look and a line delivered with a wink. Ah no, it is based deeply in psychology. Years of research reveal that flirting affects several neural mechanisms, the primary of which is the neurological pleasure-reward system. Essentially, when flirting, once’s mind is as tropical and full of illumination as if it were Christmas Eve. Reflect on an empirical study of flirting outlined in the Journal of Psychology, which revealed that people who flaunt signs of flirting were more psychologically satisfied as compared to their counterparts. Yes, and you should know that teasing can actually increase your level of happiness. Who would’ve thought? But the twist is still to follow. Psychotherapists have noted that eye contact has a twofold function, namely, flirting. Beside its usage to express romantic or sexual interest it also has a dramatic role in assessing the reciprocating interest. Have you ever dropped a compliment at someone just to see how he or she will respond? That is you, doing a mini psychological experiment. some common flirting behaviours are;
Maintaining eye contact: This makes it evident especially to the employer that you are willing and ready to pay attention. 
Mirroring body language: In another’s movement we grasp a likeness, and in imitating this we establish a relationship. 
Teasing: It is appearing some what silly in order to get a reaction from someone else. 
 
 However, let it be stated emphatically that the use of flirting depends not on what has been practiced but on how it is received. This conveys the idea that while one person may think the event is charming, another may find it cringe, for this and the following reasons. In fact, according to the concepts developed by the specialists in evolutionary psychology, flirting seems to have its origins in the fundamental self-preservation instincts. It seems that, no matter how much our flirting strategies can differ depending on cultural and personal preferences, everything can be explained by our remote ancestors’ need to locate a suitable partner for reproduction. Thus, each time you call someone a fool or fire off an appropriate zinger their way, you are acting out a part of one of the oldest practices on the planet. Thus, don’t let the big words scare you off. Still, that’s the beauty of flirting; it’s not serious business and therefore should not be taken that seriously. It’s a dance: not a scheduled experiment. Remember to keep it friendly, and we shall overcome it.
 

 Flirting only works if you’re drop-dead gorgeous: Alright, before we proceed let us clarify one thing, flirting is not aprivilege for the runway models only. It is a case of relatedness rather than relevance. Forgetting about the fact that it is so unimportant what you look like, playfulness and accessibility are in fact more important. 
 Playing hard to get is effective: Although some measure of ‘the mystery’ can be stimulating, excessive ‘the game-play,’ can counterproductively. It appears that viewers are more inclined to choose authenticity instead of cognitive strategies. So, be natural, show the interest and than you will see what will happen 

some common flirting blunders that can trip anyone up
 Overthinking and Overanalyzing: The concept of flirting is to allow a certain degree of playfulness in the interaction between the individuals. Over-analyzing situations will make you appear unnatural and this will be evident in every step that you take. Following your gut and going with the flow is very important. 
 Being Too Aggressive: Although confidence is loved, aggressiveness is something people find off putting ;. This is important because it involves learning to take a step back and allow the other partner to open up, in their own time. 
 Ignoring Nonverbal Cues: During laughter maybe that is where men show they are interested more than in the words spoken, it is in the mannerisms and gestures. Be sensitive to the nonverbal signals such as the eyegaze, smile, and posture of the clients and adjust your own appropriately. 
 Using Generic Pickup Lines: Most of the clichéd dialogue used to approaching a woman don’t work. What is recommended is to be as specific, clear, or direct as possible in a friendly manner, that will earn you their attention and interest and not fall for the cliché of just saying things like ‘Hey there,’ or ‘How are you,’ which are rather lame and could even drive some people away. 
 Talking Only About Yourself: Flirting is not a one sided thing. Thus, it would be useful to show interest to the other person and became more interested in his hobbies and preferences. Avoid dominating the conversation. 
 Being Inauthentic: Authenticity matters. As much as people tend to dress up and put on other personalities to fit so-and-so kind of personalities they want to have, they shall not be able to forge real friendships and relationships. For those who are reading this and wondering whether they should try to be perfect to be loved, this is the truth: love people with their imperfections too. 
 Moving Too Fast: If things are rushed, then a person can easily be frightened away. Have a laid back approach to the conversations, remember to get on a friendly term for a while and allow the attraction to grow on its own. 
 It is therefore important to note that the process of flirting is all about sending good energy and hence engendering good feelings when communicating with the intended person. There are a few guidelines: don’t be aggressive, do not say rude things to each other and just enjoy your time

Teasing is one of the types of communication that can be considered to be rather interesting and appropriate in most cases. Here are some understated ways to express interest:Here are some understated ways to express interest: 
 Smile and Eye Contact: Prolonged gaze and smile have no match, they say, and when you are in a fix, they actually hold the sense. Who says it should be stiff and formal all the time? The speed is relaxed, there is no attempt at hiding the eyes. 
 Compliment Thoughtfully: Do not use cliché compliments with your loved ones but rather be more specific. Pay attention to how they dress, walk, talk, whether they have humor, and intelligent comments, then commend them. 
 Light Teasing: This way of experimentation is funny and friendly so playful teasing is usually employed. It is just a friendly chat and don’t put any topic that will make the other person furious. 
 Active Listening: They should include but not be limited to showing excitement by asking questions and listening keenly to the answers given. People appreciate feeling heard. 
 Use Their Name: Of course, the extremely effective way to grease the wheels of conversation is when you address a person by his or her name. It makes the interactions appear to be more close. 
 Subtle Mirroring: Operator himself starts to mimic their gestures or posture without even knowing it. It makes people feel they are linked in some way. 
 Send a Thoughtful Text: It is sweet when a person gets a text at the right time. Maybe post something quite funny or say something that is a joke between the two of you. 
 Remember, subtlety is key. Try to make the other person feel relaxed and interested in the conversation but do not overdo it.

 In the continuing tug and pull of sex, courtship finds itself as both a formality and an algebra. We have looked into the reasons why people cheat, some realities, types, and approaches towards the behavior. So now that all that is left our final bow. 
 
 1. Try making love without chemistry.Tell me you only flirt to be funny or sexy When you know three words have the power to make neurons dance.It was found out by research that when people transact playfully, it produces a feel good factor in the brain. And it feels like a spoonful of swoon worthy dopamine and funkadelic serotonin. But here’s the twist: as much as we’d like to think, flirting is not a one-kind-of-girl-for-every-sort-of-guy kind of thing. Now this is rather subjective, what one person finds charming, another may find cringe worthy. However, remember the say of the rule, look at your audience and feedback then make sure to steer clear of trying to be funny all the time. Historically/ using the evolutionary approach, flirting can be dated back to when people were looking for a partner to procreate. When you say the compliments or stare at a lady, you should recall she is following a culture that has been in existence for several centuries. And who knows? Perhaps something like that playful riposte is the starting point of a great story.  
 
 2. Let’s demystify some myths, be true to ourselves It is high time that we debunk these myths. Thus, flirting is not a privilege of supermodels but an interaction based not on ideal models but relationships. It might sound anti-feminist to some, but the study concluded that authenticity is more effective than mind games, such as playing hard to get. Thus, instead of trying to make a girl you are interested in become attracted to you by using pick-up techniques, it is advised to pay attention to the real interest, properly timed compliments, and mimicry. Just bear in mind that it is not a race so you do not need to rush. Therefore, however you may be in the art of flirting, accept the tango. Patience is truly the virtue, especially in the attempts at cultivating a mysterious and alluring persona, so be yourself, respect other people’s personal space, and do not rush things. Happy flirting