You will get what you want out of life only if you are able to get along with people. Getting along with others means that they like you and will do things for you. In other words, they react positively to your personality. Your personality is nothing more nor less than your attitudes in action. It is the way you communicate your thoughts about others and yourself.
Here are some pointers to remember to make your personality pleasing, one that creates positive reactions in others:
- To have a friend, you must be one.
- The greatest hunger that people have is to be needed, wanted and loved. Help create those feelings in others.
- Don't try to impress others. Let them impress you.
- Be kind to people. You can't always love them, but you can be kind to them.
- Learn to like yourself. Others will respond to you the way you respond to yourself.
- Be enthusiastic. Nothing significant was ever achieved without enthusiasm - including deep, rich human relationships.
- Be positive. Positive people attract others; negative people repel others.
- Do things to make people feel important. Write a letter. Give a compliment. Say, "Thank you." Praise. Encourage. Support. Cooperate.
- Sticking up for your "rights" is great, but do you always have to be right? Letting the other person be right once in a while will keep friendships warm.
- Be a good listener. You can have a greater effect on others by the way that you listen than by the way that you talk.
- Unless you can say something worthy about a person, say nothing.
- Call a person by name. Use it often in your conversation.
- Communicate cheerfulness. Smile. Be pleasant. Talk about the brighter things in life.
- Avoid arguments
- If you're going to make fun of someone, make sure it's you.
- Help people like themselves. The greatest compliment someone can give you is to say, " like myself better when I’m with you."
- Be genuinely interested in others. Get them to talk about themselves. Ask for their opinions, ideas and viewpoints.
